Izingxenye ezimbili ezingekho ezingqungqutheleni zonyaka? Ukulungiselela-futhi kumnandi
Ukubhekisela okungaqondakali iningi lethu lenza "emaholide" mhlawumbe kusho ukuthi kukhona okuhlukile kakhulu kithi ngamunye. Leli gama seliba nesenzo esibonakalayo esibhakabhakeni esivela ku-Thanksgiving kuya eNyakeni Yonyaka, futhi noma yiziphi izinkolelo, amasiko, imikhosi kanye nemibuthano egcwele indawo.
Into eyodwa esivame ukufana ngayo yilezikhathi zonyaka zikhethekile futhi zihlukile, ngezindlela kokubili ukuphakamisa nokuzama, okuhle nokubi.
Ukucindezeleka kwamaholide kuza ezinhlobonhlobo eziningi, kusukela ebuhlotsheni obunzima, ukuhamba ngezinkinga, ama-akhawuntini asebhange aphishekela ukubekezela kwabo. Kungaba nesizungu nokudabuka, noma uthando oluhle nokubambisana, mhlawumbe ngisho nokuhlanganiswa kwazo zonke lezi.
Kodwa ukucindezeleka okukodwa kwamaholide kutholakala ekuzibophezelweni komphakathi ukulungisa ngokushesha. Ukulahlekelwa isisindo kuphele isikhathi eside phakathi kwezinqumo ezithandwa kakhulu zonyaka omusha.
Ngakho-ke, umqondo oyisisekelo wukuthi amaholide asisiholela kuzo zonke izilingo, futhi ngokuvamile sithatha. Amashejuli ethu futhi, mhlawumbe, ukuzivocavoca kuvame ukuphazanyiswa. Nokho, iningi le nselelo liwukudla. Ukudla kuthatha isiteji esiqakathekileko kuyo yonke imihlangano, ihlangano, begodu nanyana kunjalo, idili lomndeni. Inzuzo yesisindo seholide ngu de de rigueur. Ngakho-ke, ukuzisola okuthunyelwe emva kwesikhathi.
Ngeke uthole ukuntuleka kweluleko oluningiliziwe ngalokhu konke uma wenza ngisho nosesho olukhethiwe.
Kunesiqondiso esihle kakhulu lapha. Umgomo wami lapha, nokho, awuncane ngokucacisa isixazululo kunokwesula inkinga ngokuyilula.
Ifomula yami elula inezingxenye ezintathu.
1) Khumbula ukuthi imaphi impilo
Esinye sezizathu zokucindezeleka kwamaholide kanye nokuzisola ngemuva kokuholide kuyi-moralization yempilo.
Sathi ngandlela-thile sizikhulume ngombono wokuthi abantu abalungile banempilo emihle nemizimba ephilile, futhi ukuphambuka ngale ndlela kuyindlela ethile yokuziphatha okuhlulekayo noma ukuziphatha okungafani.
Lona ngumthwalo wezingenangqondo ezingenangqondo! Impilo ayiyona indlela yokuziphatha, futhi akuyona ngisho nomgomo. Umgomo uphila kangcono-impilo engcono. Ezinye izinto zilingana, abantu abanempilo bayajabula kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi ukubaluleka kweqiniso kwezempilo kuyisevisi yayo kumnandi ongayithola. Ngokungazelelwe, akufanele kube nengqondo ukuxosha umxhwele ngenxa yokuzisola ngokudla, impilo, noma isisindo phezu kwamaholide.
2) Khumbula ukuthi yiziphi amaholidi
Kwabaningi bethu, amaholidi abuye ajabulise. Izinto azisebenzi njalo njengethemba, kepha ithemba lihle ngokuhleka: izikhathi ezinhle, ukudla okuhle, kanye nabantu abathintekayo kakhulu kithi. Amaholide kufanele abe izikhathi ezikhethekile, ngokuvamile ehilela ukuzithokozisa okuthile. Yeka amahloni okukhathazeka ngendlela yethu ngaleyo ndlela yonyaka.
Inkinga yethu akuyona amaholidi; ngesikhathi samaholide, ngombono wami, kufanele sivumele izikhathi ezinhle ziguqulwe. Inkinga yethu ijwayele ukuba yilezi ezinye izinsuku ezingu-350 noma ezinsukwini zonyaka, lapho abaningi bethu beyeka amathuba okuba sihlakulele impilo ngenxa yokuzijabulisa. Iseluleko sami mayelana nendlela yokugwema ukuphuza ngokweqile ngamaholide kungukunganaki amaholide futhi ugxile kulo lonke unyaka.
Uma ngokuvamile udla kahle futhi uzivocavoca, ukuhamba ngezinsuku zamaholide kuzokwenza umonakalo omkhulu. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma udla ngempela unyaka wonke, uzovame ukuthanda ukudla okunempilo noma kunjalo, futhi ukuthobeka kwakho kuzovame ukuzihlanganisa.
3) Hlaziya ngokuzikhandla
Sonke siyazi ukuthi izinhlanga ziqala kanjani: lungile, setha, hamba . Izinqumo zonyaka omusha, ngeshwa, kunalokho kufinyelela ekubeni "kokuhamba, kungakhathaliseki noma cha ukulungiselela nokulungele" ezihlukahlukene. Umphumela ubikezela.
Ngakho-ke ungavumeli ukuzisola ungene kwenye isinqumo esiphelelwe amandla. Hlela ukulungela futhi usethe ngaphambi kokuthi uphinde uhambe.
- Yini ongathanda kakhulu ukuyishintsha, ngani, kanjani, futhi nini?
- Ubani ozokusiza?
- Ubani ongakuvimbela?
- Yini okudingeka uhambe ibanga, futhi ungayifinyelela kanjani ngaphambi kokuthi uqale?
- Yini ezokubeka ukuze ngonyaka ozayo, amaholidi ajabule kakhulu futhi angakhathazeki kakhulu?
Izimpendulo zalezi zingase zimeme ukusesha ulwazi oluningi, kodwa njengoba kuphawuliwe ekuqaleni, imininingwane enjalo iyatholakala kalula. Ngaphambi kokuhlela, yenza kube lula. Amaholidi kufanele abe okukhethekile. Impilo yiphakamiso sonyaka. Futhi yilokho abafana nabo okubangela ukuthi bobabili bakhathazeke: Bobabili kufanele banikele ekujabuleni nasekujabuliseni empilweni yakho.
Ngalokho engqondweni, ngikufisela impilo nenjabulo kuNyaka Omusha.