Uma ushada, mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi ikusasa eligcwele lezithombe zothando - ukuhamba okude ogwini ngenkathi ubambe izandla futhi ubheke omunye ngothando ngokuvivinywa kokuphila. Yini ongacabangi ukuthi bobabili nifakwe embhede eminyakeni eyishumi kamuva, amapremu angu-30 ngokweqile . Ngenkathi siningi kakhulu ukucabanga ngekusasa elihle kakhulu, iqiniso lihlukile kancane.
Ukuzuza kwesisindo kuvamile njengoba sikhula, kodwa abantu abashadile bangathola amaprethi angu-6 kuya kwangu-9 ngaphezu kwabantu abangashadile, iqiniso elingenza wenze ukufuna ukugcoba izicathulo zakho bese uphuma phansi kwe-aisle ukuze ushise amakholori ambalwa.
Ukubeka Emigodini Yomshado
Kunezinombolo eziningi zokuthi kungani sithola isisindo emva kokushada, kodwa njalo kuyiphutha lomyeni, noma ngabe amakhasimende ami angitshela. Ucwaningo olulodwa olushicilelwe ngobuningi oluthile lubuthole ukuthi imvelo ehlangene ingase "yenze amathuba okuba abe okhuluphele, ithonya umncintiswano womlingani futhi ingaba isisusa esibalulekile sokungenelela ngokweqile." Ezinye izizathu zingabandakanya:
- Isikhuthazo esincane sokuhlala sincane uma sithole umlingani
- Ama-Post-pregnancy pounds amamathele futhi angandisela bobabili abazali
- Ukudla okuningi noma ukupheka ukudla okukhudlwana
- Ukuzihlanganisa. Imibhangqwana eshadile ijwayele ukubuka iTV ngaphezu kwabantu abangashadile
- Amashejuli ahamba phambili ashiya isikhathi esincane sokusebenza ngokomzimba nokupheka ukudla okunempilo
Enye inkinga ukuthi inzuzo yesisindo ivame ukuqhuma futhi ungase ungaboni ukuthi ubukele i-TV engaphezulu noma ukuthi weqa iSonto lakho ekuseni ugijima amasonto ambalwa. Ngaphambi kokuba uthathe imikhuba yomlingani wakho, thatha isikhathi sokuhlela ikusasa elinempilo kokubili.
Gwema ukutholakala kwesisindo
1. Hlela Izindlela Ezinhle Ekuqaleni
Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile ingakutshela ukuthi, yini eniyenzana ndawonye ngokuvamile iba umkhuba futhi umkhuba owodwa oyintandokazi uhilela umbhede, ithelevishini kanye nomuva wakho. Uma ubukela i-TV njalo ebusuku, amathuba okuba uzokwenza iminyaka eminingi kusukela manje. Iminye imibono yokugwema lokhu:
- Namathela ekusebenzeni kwakho -Kulula ukuvala ithrekhi ngokusebenza kwakho ngemva komshado. Yenza ukuzivocavoca kuqala uma usuqedile. Ukuvumela isikhathi esiningi kakhulu kudlule kwenza kube nzima ukubuyela emuva endleleni .
- Yenza izinto ndawonye - Kulula ukwehla embhedeni ubusuku bonke, kodwa kulula nje ukusetha imikhuba esebenzayo. Nquma ukuthi uzohamba ngemva kokudla ukudlala ukudlala, udlala imidlalo ye-Wii esebenzayo noma uthathe inja ukuthi ihlukane epaki.
- Yenza ukuzivocavoca ingxenye yomshado wakho - Uma nonke nithanda ukuvivinya umzimba, unenhlanhla. Imibhangqwana eminingi ilwa omunye nomunye ngoba umuntu uthanda ukuzivocavoca kanti omunye akwenzi. Uma kunjalo, bamba ukuzothola into oyithokozelayo - ukuhamba ngebhayisikili, ukuhamba ngezinyawo noma umdlalo we-tennis ngeveki evelele. Kungase kudingeke ufunde umdlalo omusha, kodwa ngubani othi ukushaya ibhola elincane elimhlophe neqembu eliphindwe izikhathi ezigidini ngosuku olushubileyo kuyamangalisa noma kuphazamise? Hhayi wena!
- Setha imithetho yomthetho - Yenze kube ngumthetho wokuthi ungakwazi ukubuka i-TV kuphela ubusuku obunye beviki noma isikhathi esithile. Uma imidlalo yevidiyo iyisici, sinqume ndawonye ukuthi isikhathi esingakanani sokudlala ngaphandle kokushayela omunye umuntu odidekile. Ukuthola izindlela zokujabulela isikhathi sokuphumula ngaphandle kokuvumela ukuthi kuthathe isisindo sokulinganisela.
2. Ukusebenzisana Nezindlela Zokudla Zakho
Ungase ulingeke ukuba ushiye imikhuba yakho yokudla enempilo emva komshado noma ukuphoqa omunye umuntu ukuba ayeke imikhuba yakhe yokudla ngokuthanda kwakho. Ukulungisa akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi, ikakhulukazi uma unendlela ehlukene yokudla. Uma ayevame ukugcina ihrifi egcwele izinja zezinkukhu kanye nabakwa-Snickers, angeke ajabule kakhulu ukuvula umnyango wesimangalo sakho se-tofu-tree-bark-lemon-wedge. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungase ube nobunzima ukulwa nesilingo uma uhlala ubona ukuthi ama-Snickers njalo uma ubheka efrijini.
Ngisebenze namakhasimende ahlukahlukene ngalolu daba futhi bathole izindlela ezahlukene zokuxoxisana nendawo yamabhomu yokudla:
- Wonke umuntu ngokwakhe - Omunye umbhangqwana engangisebenza naye wayenendlela yokuzidla, lapho umuntu ngamunye enza khona ukudla kwakhe. Kulesi simo, yilowo nalowo uthole lokho okufunayo kodwa, uma udla ngezikhathi ezihlukene, ukudla kwakho kungase kube nesizungu kancane. Enye indlela yokwenza ukudla ndawonye, ngisho noma wenza ukudla okuhlukene.
- Umpheki uyisinqumo - Omunye umbhangqwana engangisebenza naye wahambisana nomthetho wokuthi noma ubani opheka ukudla uyazikhethela ukuthi uzokwenzani. Lokhu kusebenza kahle uma umpheki ophilile ephethe futhi umuntu odlayo uzimisele ukudla noma yini. Njengoba umyeni engitshele ukuthi, "Ungitshela ukuthi ngizokwenzenjani futhi ngiyakwenza, lapho. Uvele ufunde imfihlo emshadweni ojabulisayo."
- Ukudla okuhlukile - Omunye iklayenti engisebenza naye wenza ukudla kokubili ebusuku, enempilo yakhe futhi inguqulo engcono kakhulu kumyeni wayo. Lona umsebenzi owengeziwe kumpheki kodwa, eminye imibhangqwana, isebenza.
- Yondla ndawonye - Akukho lutho olubophezela ndawonye umbhangqwana ngaphezu kokugqoka i-cookbook futhi uzibuza ukuthi, "Kuyini okushiwo ukuthi 'i-blanch' ibhontshisi eluhlaza?" Ukwenza ukudla ndawonye kukunika ithuba lokuthonya lokho okuphekayo nokwenza kube nempilo. Manje ungasho ukuthi, "Mhlawumbe singasebenzisa isipuni samafutha omnqumo ukuze siphume ubhontshisi obuluhlaza esikhundleni senduku yonke ibhotela.
- Gwema ukudla okudliwayo kakhulu - Uma kungekho omunye wenu opheka kakhulu, ungagcina wenza enye imibhangqwana eshadile yenza iphutha: Ukudla ngaso sonke isikhathi. Omunye umbhangqwana engangisebenza nawo ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokuthatha isigaba sokupheka kanye nokwenza izindlela zokupheka ngesonto ngalinye.
Kodwa-ke, usebenza izinto, khuluma ngendlela ongayenza ngayo kube lula komunye nomunye. Uma engumlutha wokudla okungenamsoco futhi ungeke ube khona, mnike iKhabhinethi yakhe eyimfihlo futhi uvume ukuthi uzoyidla kuphela uma ungekho. Uma ephoqelela ukumangala kwakhe ku-tofu-tree-bark-lemon-wedge ngaso sonke isikhathi esidlweni, yenza umyalo wokuthi uzokuzama kanye kanye, uma ungayithandi, kuzomele azame umuthi ongenamuthi iresiphi.
Ngokuvamile sishiya ukuphila kwethu kwasekuqaleni lapho sishada futhi, ngezinye izindlela, kuhle ukudala imizila emisha ukuze sikuhlanganise. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lezo zinhlelo ziphilile kungaba nzima, kepha kufanele umzamo uma kukusiza ukuba ugweme lawo maphilisi omshado.
Imithombo:
I-N, Gordon-Larson P. Ukungenela Ukubambisana Okuthandanayo kuhlanganiswa Nokukhuluphala. Ukukhuluphala kuka-2009 Jul; 17 (7): 1441-7.