Indlela Yokugqugquzela Ukwelashwa Okunempilo Kubathandekayo Bakho
Uma kukhona into eyodwa esiyifunde ngomshado, yilokhu: Awukho ophethe lokho omunye umuntu akwenzayo. Ngiyazi ... kungenangqondo, akunjalo? Emva kwakho konke, ushada lomuntu impilo yakho yonke ... akufanele yini enze noma yini oyifunayo ukuba benze?
Lolu hlobo lokucabanga luvame ukubangela izinkinga, ikakhulu uma kuziwa ekuzivocavoca. Kungaba lukhuni ebuhlotsheni uma umuntu oyedwa esebenza futhi omunye umuntu engekho.
Uma ungumuntu wokuzivocavoca, ukhathazeka ngesisindo somunye umuntu kanye nempilo yabo, ukufa nokucindezeleka. Uma ungenawo umzimba, ungase uzizwe unecala ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokuba ungasebenzi njengomunye umuntu.
Ngisho noma wena nomlingani wakho ninemibono ehlukene mayelana nesidingo sokuzivocavoca, kunezindlela eziningi ongabanikeza ngazo isikhuthazo.
Ukugqugquzela Izisusa Ezinempilo Kuzakwethu
Emshadweni noma eminye ubuhlobo besikhathi eside, enye yezinto ozifunda ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuthi awukwazi ukuphoqa omunye umuntu ukuba enze into ayifunayo. Futhi lokho kuyinto enhle. Ukuze ube nobuhlobo obungcono kakhulu, nonke nidinga ukuba nemicabango yenu nemibono yenu futhi nibe ngabantu abazimele! Ukukhulumisana okuhlukumezayo kuyindlela engafanele.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, unelungelo lokukhipha umlingani wakho ngendlela efanele uma kuziwa empilweni yakhe nenhlalakahle yakhe.
Phela, impilo yomlingani wakho ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ufuna umlingani wakho uphilile futhi uphile, noma nje ulangazelela othandekayo onokujabulela ukuzivocavoca nokuphila okunempilo eceleni kwakho, unesithakazelo esinikeziwe.
Ake sibheke ezinye zezindlela ongayenza ngazo umlingani wakho ukuba abe nempilweni encane.
Yiba Isibonelo Esihle Esihle
Ukuhlanganisa umlingani wakho ekuzivocavocavoca, njengoba kujabulisa lokho kungase kube, ngokuvamile kuvimba. Kodwa ukugxila ekuziphatheni kwakho okuphilile kungakhuthaza umlingani wakho ukuba enze okufanayo. Kuyamangaza ukuthi bangaki abantu abazenza ushintsho ngemva kokuyeka ukucela. Kungaba nokuthile okuphathelene nokuzimela okukhulunywe ngenhla. Ngisho nezingane ezincane esingazithandi ukuthi sitshele ukuthi senzeni, futhi njengabantu abadala zingasicosha ngendlela engafanele.
Ukuba yisibonelo kukukhulula ekubeni usho igama, futhi lisebenza. Ucwaningo olwanyatheliswa ku- JAMA Internal Medicine lwathola ukuthi ukuba nomlingani osebenza ngokomzimba kwaphakamisa izinkinga nge-factor of five ukuthi omunye umuntu uzobe esebenza ngokwengeziwe.
Sebenzisa Ukukhuthazwa Okunene
Ukusebenzisa isikhuthazo esilula, esingafuneki ngokuvamile kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuqhubeka. Uyini isibonelo somkhuthazo omnene?
Hlela ngemuva kokuhamba nge-dinner, into engewona umsebenzi ophilile kuphela kodwa ikuphoqa ukuba ushiye izikrini ngemuva bese uphinde uxhumane ngemuva kosuku olude. Noma mhlawumbe ungamema umlingani wakho ejimini ukuze umbonise ukuthi izinto zisebenza kanjani. Ukunikeza isimemo esingenasidingo kungakwanela ukushada abashadile.
Yenza kube kujabulise
Ngezinye izikhathi ngiyamemeza, "Hayi, ake sihambe sigijime ngamamayela angu-10," ngeke nje sisebenze.
Imisebenzi ebonakala ingafani nokuzivocavoca, noma kunjalo, njengokuhamba ngebhayisikili, umdlalo we-tennis, noma ukuhamba epaki kungase kukhangise nakakhulu. Yenza isikhathi sokuchitha isikhathi ndawonye futhi ujabule kunokuba usebenzise umzimba.
Kulungile kabili
Uma ufana nemibhangqwana evamile, kungenzeka ukuthi omunye wenu, ngezinye izikhathi, wenza umsebenzi omkhulu wendlu. Uma umlingani wakho onomlutha wokuzivocavoca nguye owenza imisebenzi eminingi yasekhaya ungase ube nenselele ezandleni zakho. Phela, imisebenzi yendlu iyindlela yokuzivocavoca. Uma ufuna imibono ukuze ukhulule umlingani wakho ukuze ube nesikhathi sokuzivocavoca, noma uthole lolu hlobo lokuzivocavoca ngokwakho, hlola imisebenzi yomndeni ekhuthaza ukufaneleka.
Qiniseka
Esikhundleni sokuthukuthela ngomkhuba womuntu oshade naye wokuba ngumuntu siqu, zama ukukhuluma ngalokho okukukhathazayo ngempela. Mhlawumbe ukhathazekile ngempilo yakhe noma ufuna ikusasa elingcono. Mhlawumbe ufuna ukuqonda ukuthi kungani ephikisana nokuzivocavoca. Umlingani wakho angase abe nezizathu ongaziqondi, eziphazamisa isifiso noma ikhono lokuzivocavoca. Ukuqaphela lezo zizathu akugcini nje kukuvumela ukuba uzwele kakhulu uhlangothi lwakhe, kepha kungathuthukisa ukujula kokuxhumana kwakho. Thatha isikhathi sokulalela.
Izizathu Zokugqugquzela Ozakwethu Ukuba Nempilo
Asikho isidingo sokuvuselela izinzuzo zokudla okunempilo nokuzivocavoca. Imizuzu embalwa cishe cishe noma yimuphi umagazini uyisikhumbuzo sokuthi lezi zibalulekile. Nakuba sizwa kancane ngezinzuzo zokuphila okunempilo kumlingani, kubaluleke kakhulu. Izifundo zisitshela ukuthi ukuba nobuhlobo besikhathi eside obuhle kunomthelela omuhle ezimweni zezokwelapha kusuka emdlalweni wesifo kuya enhliziyweni. Njengengxenye yokuthembeka, njengoba kuphawuliwe ngenhla, ungabelana nokwesaba kwakho okufihliwe ngempilo yothandekayo wakho. Vele uqiniseke ukwenza lokhu ngobumnene. Isongela umngane wakho ngokusho ukuthi impilo yakho iyingozi uma engaqala ukusebenza nawe nsuku zonke mhlawumbe ngeke ayinqume. Uma kukhona, umlingani wakho uzothola lokhu kukhula ngokwanele ukuthi uzokwenza okuphambene nje ukuze akutshele ukuthi ngeke asebenze. Uma wabelana nokwesaba kwakho ngokuthi impilo yakhe ingathinta kanjani eyakho, qiniseka ukuthi ukwenze ngendlela enomusa nangothando.
Ngezansi Ekukhuthazeni Oshade naye noma Ozakwethu ukuba Uzivocavoca
Abantu abaningi bafuna ukukhuthaza umlingani wabo ukuba bazivocavoca, kepha bafuna ukuthi baphile impilo enempilo akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu. Mhlawumbe indlela engcono kakhulu, futhi ephumelela kakhulu, kungokumane ube isibonelo esihle. Ukunikeza isikhuthazo esifanele nokuza izindlela zokuzivocavoca kuyasiza nakakhulu. Uma umlingani wakho ehluleka ukuzivocavoca, qiniseka ukuthi uthatha isikhathi sokulalela hhayi nje inkulumo. Imibhangqwana esebenzisana ndawonye ivame ukuphilisa ndawonye, kepha ukuhlakanipha, ukucabangela, nokuzimisela ukulalela kuyadingeka uma uthemba ukuthi umlingani wakho angene nawe kulokhu kufunwa.
> Umthombo:
> Wardle, J., Steptoe, A., no S. Jackson. Umthelela Wezenzo Zobambisene Nezinguquko Zokuziphatha Kwempilo. Isifundo se-English Longitudinal sokuguga. I-JAMA Imithi Yangaphakathi . 2015. 175 (3): 385-92.