Ukuzikhulumela kungathinta ukusebenza komdlalo wezemidlalo
Enye yemiqondo elula yezemidlalo yezemidlalo ithuthukisa ukukhuluma okuhle. Kungenye futhi amakhono ezinzima kakhulu ezemidlalo ezengqondo ukuqonda.
Kuyini Ukuzikhulumayo?
Usuku lonke, abantu abaningi banenkhulumomphendvulwano ehambayo nabo. Uma empeleni uyeka futhi ulalele le milayezo, ungase uzibuze ukuthi usebenza kanjani nhlobo. Ngaki kangaki ngosuku olunikeziwe uthola ukucabanga ngokwengqondo ngomphumela omubi kunokwenzeka, noma uzitshele ukuthi awukwazi ukwenza okuthile, noma kunzima kakhulu?
Uma uphakathi komgijimi we -5K futhi othile edonsela phambili, ingabe lelo gama elincane ekhanda lakho likukhuthaza noma likudubule phansi?
Ukuthola isibambiso ekukhulumeni kwethu kungenye yezinto ezinzima kunazo zonke iningi lethu elizozama, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sidlala imidlalo noma cha. Eqinisweni, ukukhulumisana nokuzikhulumela okuhle kuyisimo senhliziyo eminingi-izinhlelo ezisekelwe phansi. Kumdlali, imiyalezo yangaphakathi emibi nemicabango ingaphakathi kwabaningi abanikezela phambili ukugijimela ama-jitters nokusebenza kokukhathazeka .
Indlela Yokuzivocavoca Ukukhuluma Okuhle
Ngakho-ke singayinciphisa kanjani le miyalezo engalungile? Ezingqondweni zezemidlalo, umgomo ukubeka esikhundleni sokukhulumisana okungalungile nemilayezo emihle.
Umdlali webhasi lebhola lokudubula aphonsela ngokukhululeka okuzitshela ukuthi, "Angiyikwenza le basketball," kuzodingeka ukuthi ngizenzele esikhundleni saleso sitatimende esibi nge-positive "Ngizokwenza lokhu kudutshulwa." Nakuba lokhu kungase kungabonakali sengathi kungasebenza, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi ngokuphindaphinda umdlali ungakha umkhuba omusha wokucabanga izitatimende ezinhle nemicabango futhi ulindele umphumela omuhle kakhulu.
Lokhu kuhlobana phakathi kwamazwi nenkolelo ukuthi umgomo wokugcina wale nqubo.
Esinye isici esibalulekile sokuzikhulumela okuhle ukuthi kufanele sikwenze futhi sikholelwe. Ukwenza ukukhishwa kwamahhala kungcono kakhulu njengokungathi ulahlekile, ngakho-ke lo mlayezo ungakholelwa yi-athlete ezingeni elijulile.
Ukuzibuza ukuthi uzoba yi-NBA elandelayo yonke inkanyezi ngeke ibe nomthelela ofanayo ngoba (1) ayikho impendulo esheshayo yokuqinisa ukukhuluma, futhi (2) umlayezo angeke ukholwe, ngakho-ke , akunakwenzeka ukuthuthukisa ukuzethemba noma ukuphumelela kumdlali.
Ucwaningo lusekela inkolelo yokuthi umdlali oqhubeka njalo enza inkulumo yakhe enhle uzokuthuthukisa ukusebenza kwakhe kwezemidlalo . Ukuphumelela ekukhulumeni kwengqondo engalungile kuyindlela eqinisekile yokwehlisa ukusebenza nokuphumelela kwezemidlalo.
Izinyathelo Zokuthuthukisa Isimo Sokuzikhulumela Esihle
- Khetha i-mantra
Ukuze uqale ngokudala ukukhuluma ngokwakho okuhle, khetha eyodwa yama-mantras amabili ongayisebenzisa phakathi nokuqeqeshwa kwakho. Lokhu kungaba ukuqinisekiswa okulula, njengokuthi "ngizizwa nginamandla," noma i-mantra ethi "Hamba, Hamba, Hamba," noma enye inkulumo elula, enhle ongayiphindaphinda kaningi. - Hlanganisa izimo eziningi
Uma usuhlakulele umkhuba wokuphindaphinda le nkulumo ngesikhathi sokuzivocavoca lapho uqala khona ngokuzenzakalela, qala ukukhulisa inkhulumomphendvulwano ukuze ube nezitatimende ezijwayele futhi ezikhululekile zezimo ezihlukahlukene ngesikhathi semidlalo yakho. Isibonelo, uma uhamba ngebhayisikili bese ufinyelela egqumeni, ungase uthi, "Ngingumkhumbi omkhulu wezintaba," noma "Ngenze lokhu ngaphambili futhi kungenzeka." Uma uhla ephakheni ungathi, "Noma yini engenzeka, futhi angiyikho ngalokhu. Ungavumeli."
- Yakha isithombe sengqondo esihle noma ukubuka
Imishwana namagama oyikhethayo kufanele kube yilokho ongakwazi ukukubiza khona ngokushesha bese udala isithombe esibukwayo ngokwakho okwenza lokho okushoyo. Isithombe kanye namazwi yinhlanganisela enamandla eyenza umyalezo omuhle ohlanganiswe nenkolelo.
Imithombo
Hatzigeorgiadis, A., et al. Ukuzivocavoca nokusebenza kwezemidlalo Ukuhlaziywa kwe-Meta. Izindlela Zezesayensi Yezokwelapha NgoJulayi 2011 vol. 6 cha. 4 348-356
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