Indlela Yokukhetha Ukusebenza Okufanele Kuwe
Ubuntu kuyinkimbinkimbi-izici ezisiza ukuchaza ukuthi ungubani futhi unqume ukuthi yini okukhathaza ngayo ngokuphelele, njengoba kungekho bantu ababili abafana ncamashi. Kodwa abalingiswa bezengqondo bebelokhu basebenzela amashumi eminyaka ukuze baqonde kangcono ubuntu, futhi ngokusho kukaDkt Chris Friesen, Ph.D., C.Psych., BCN, noMqondisi weFriesen Sport and Performance Psychology, amathekisthi okubalwa kwamathekisthi anciphise ubuntu kubantu abahlanu ubukhulu bomhlaba wonke.
Lokhu kufaka:
- Imizwa Ebi: Kungenzeka kanjani ukuba umuntu abe nemicabango emibi nokucindezeleka
- Ukuqothula: Kungakanani umuntu angakwazi ukubekezelela ukugqugquzela kwangaphandle
- Ukuvuleka: Ukuvuleka komuntu ukuguqula nokuhlangenwe nakho okusha
- Ukungavumelani: Isimo sengqondo somuntu, kuhlanganise nobungane noma ukufana, kwabanye
- Ukugqugquzela: Kungakanani ukugqugquzela nokuzithiba umuntu ayenayo
Ngenkathi uFriesen egcizelela ukuthi akukho "ubuntu obunempilo" ehlukile, ubukhulu obukhona bukhulu bobukhulu bungabathinta uhlobo lokuzivocavoca olulungele wena. Yiqiniso, kunikezwe ukuthi ubukhulu ngayinye buzimelele kwezinye izilinganiso, inhlanganisela yakho eyingqayizivele ingakuholela ekukhetheni uhlobo lokuzivocavoca "olungavamile" ngobukhulu obuthile buntu bakho, kodwa lokho akukwenzi kube kubi .
"Ukuziwa kubalulekile," kusho uFriesen. "Uma uyazi-futhi wamukela-ukuthi uphakeme noma uhlehlise imizwelo emibi noma ukuxoshwa, ungafunda ukuyisebenzisa njengesivinini ukukusiza ukuba ufeze imigomo yakho."
I-Extraverts: Okuhlangenwe nakho kwezeMpilo
Ngokusho kukaFriesen, abantu abavame ukuphakama emkhakheni wokuqothula kubonakala sengathi baphumelela, banamandla futhi bakhangwa injabulo nokuvuselela-bavame ukuzwa imizwelo emihle kakhulu.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abathandeka ekugqibeleni (labo ababa phezulu ekungeneni), bavame ukugcinwa, abathintekayo, futhi bekhululekile ukusebenza kuphela.
Ama-Introverts anciphisa ukuzwa noma abonise imizwa enhle kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, iningi labantu liwela endaweni ethile emkhatsini wezinto ezimbili kodwa zivame ukuthambekela komunye nomunye. "Ngombono we-neuroscience, ungacabanga ngalolu daba njengokwenyuka kokukhuthazela kwangaphandle," kusho uFriesen. "Uma uphakeme ekukhuliseni, kuzodingeka ufanise imvelo yakho yansuku zonke nesidingo sakho sokuvuselela kwangaphandle. Lokhu kuphakamisa ukuthi ukukhipha ngaphezulu kuzokwenyuka kakhulu ematheni okufaneleka okubandakanya ukusebenzisana kwezenhlalo, ahamba phambili, umgomo -obuhle, noma kubangele ukuvuza okuhle ngokomzwelo. "
Uma udinga: Ukuvuselelwa kwangaphandle
Zama: Amaqembu okugijima , amakilasi okuzikhandla, iqembu lezemidlalo lokuncintisana, i-CrossFit, noma ukukhuphuka kwamadwala nabangani
Gwema: Imigomo yokuzivocavoca emnandi noma ephindaphindiwe
Ama-introverts: Okuhlangenwe nakho kwe-Solo Fitness
Ngokusho kukaFriesen, ama-introverts aphansi kakhulu emkhakheni wokuqothulwa futhi athambekele ekubukeni imivuzo engaba khona yemvelo, njengokudla, ubulili, ukuxhumana komphakathi, noma imali, ngokuphendula okungezansi kwe-dopamine-akudingeki noma ekhangayo.
"Uma usungenwe, awunaso isizungu uma uzizwa wedwa noma lapho wenza izinto ezingase zibonakale zihlaba umxhwele umuntu ongaphandle, ikakhulukazi labo abaphakeme kakhulu," kusho uFriesen.
"Uma uthola ukukhushulwa okuvela emithonjeni yangaphandle, uzimisele ukuzizwa ungakhululekile noma ukhululekile."
Lokhu ngokuyisisekelo kusho ukuthi udinga ukuphatha ukuthi kunjani ukuvuselela kwangaphandle owamukelayo ngosuku nosuku, futhi kusukela embonweni wokuzivocavoca, kusho ukuthi ungadonsela ezinhlobonhlobo zemizimba yokuzivocavoca. "Uma isimiso sokuzivocavoca singabantu abahlala emphakathini, esheshayo, noma eshukumisayo kakhulu, izethulo zingasengozini yokuphuma uma sezivele zithokozisa ngokwanele emsebenzini noma ekhaya," kusho uFriesen.
Yiqiniso, lokhu kuyiqiniso "wazi ngokwakho" i-conundrum, ngoba kuye ngokuthi izimo zokuphila, izethulo zingadinga ngempela ukuvuselela kwangaphandle.
Ngokwesibonelo, uFriesen uchaza ukuthi isethulo esisebenza ekhaya asitholakali ngokwanele ukuvuselela kwangaphandle emsebenzini noma ekhaya, futhi kungase kuhloswe ukufuna okuhlangenwe nakho okuvezwayo okunikeza ukuxhumana komphakathi.
Uma lokhu kuchaza isimo sakho, ungase uthande ukucubungula imikhuba yokusebenza ngokuvamile ekhethwa yilabo abalinganisa phezulu emkhakheni wokuqothula.
Uma udinga: Ikhefu lokuvuselela kwangaphandle
Zama: Ukugijima yedwa, ukusebenza ngaphandle kwezemidlalo , noma ukugqoka i- headphones uma usebenza emphakathini ukuze ubonise isifiso sokungaphazanyiswa
Ukuvulwa Okuphezulu Kuzo Okuhlangenwe nakho Okusha: Ukuguquka Konke
Ukuthambekela komuntu ukuvuleleka okuhlangenwe nakho kungenye "isilinganiso sokulinganisa" ubukhulu buntu obungathinta izintandokazi zempilo. Ngokuyinhloko, labo abalingisa ukuvuleka bavame ukudala, ukucabanga, ukufuna ukwazi, nokuzimisela ukuzama izinto ezintsha nezinto ezingavamile, kuyilapho labo abalinganisa phansi esikhaleni bavame ukuba phansi, basebenzise, bagxile, bendabuko, futhi cacisa izinkolelo mayelana nokulungile nokungalungile.
Ngokusho kukaFriesen, ukuphakama kwakho ekuvulekeni, cishe uzosondela ezweni elikuzungezile ngokumangala okufana nezingane kanye nesifiso.
Ngakho-ke akufanele kusimangaze ukuthi abantu ababeka phambili ekuvulelekeni benza ngcono uma behlola amathuba ahlukahlukene empilo. "Uzohlala ushukumisekile kakhulu uma ushintsha isimiso sakho sokuqeqeshwa kaningi, noma uma uqala ukwenza umsebenzi wakho ngokufaka izenzo ezintsha noma usebenza ezindaweni ezahlukene," kusho uFriesen. "Futhi uzobe uvulekile ngokwengeziwe kumkhuba wokwenza umsebenzi wakamuva, noma igajethi yakamuva noma uhlelo lokusebenza ukulandelela ukusebenza kwakho."
Uma udinga: Shintsha ukugcina ujabule
Zama: Izinhlanga zemfundo yokuvimbela , ukuhamba ngempilo , i- ClassPass , noma amanye ama- passport ama-passport ama-fitness , ukusebenza kwe-intanethi noma ezokuxhumana nabantu
Awuvuli Kakhulu Kuzo Okuhlangenwe nakho Okusha: Uhambo Oluvumelana Njalo
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma ubheke phansi ekuvulekeni, cishe ufuna ukuphindaphinda nokusebenza. "Uzozizwa ushukunyiswa kakhulu ngomshini wokuzivocavoca ongenawo ucansi noma ongenazo izinyathelo ongafunda futhi usebenzise ngokuphindaphindiwe," kusho uFriesen, enezela ukuthi cishe uzokujabulela ukusebenza nomqeqeshi noma umqeqeshi othembekile ukuba alandele isimiso sokuzivocavoca nesilingo.
Uma udinga: Ukuvumelana
Zama: Ukuqeqeshwa komuntu siqu noma ukuqeqeshwa, ukuqeqeshwa kwamandla wendabuko, ukuqhuba noma imizila ye-cardio yendabuko
Umbono Omuhle Kubanye: Imisebenzi Yeqembu
"Ukungavumelani ukuthambekela kobuntu okuyisisekelo okusho isimo sakho sengqondo ngabanye," kusho uFriesen. Wena othokozela ngokwengeziwe, ukuthembela, ukuvuleka, ukuthanda, ukusebenzisana nokuzwelana okuvame ukukwenza. Ongajabuli kangako, owokungabaza, oqaphekile, ozivikelayo, onokuncintisana, onomqondo onzima ovame ukuba nawo.
Njengezinye izilinganiso zobuntu, akukho "okulungile" noma "okungahambi kahle" ukuthambekela. Into okumele uyikhumbule, yilokho kuvumelana kuhlukile nokuhlukumeza. Kungenzeka ngokuphelele ukuba kube mnandi kodwa kungeniswe, noma kungavumelani futhi kukhishwe.
"Uma ukhululekile ngokuvumelana, cishe uzokwenza kahle ezindaweni zeqembu, unikeze ukuthambekela kwakho ukuthembela nokuhambisana nabanye," kusho uFriesen.
Futhi uma uphinde ususwe, cishe uthanda kakhulu futhi uyathandwa ezindaweni ezinjalo zomphakathi.
Uma: Hamba kahle nabanye
Zama: I- Double tennis, i- CrossFit , i-boot camp, idansa, imidlalo yokuzilibazisa
Ukungabaza Kwabanye: Ezemidlalo Zomuntu Omncintiswano
Labo ababeka phansi ekuvumelaneni bangase baphambene, futhi banomncintiswano, futhi bekhululekile ukuveza imibono nokungavumelani. "Kungenzeka ukuthi uyazibheka izinhloso zabanye futhi uziqhenya ngamandla akho okufunda abantu, ikakhulukazi izisusa zabo," kusho uFriesen. "Mhlawumbe uthandana ukunqoba wanikezwa ukukhanga kwakho emncintiswaneni, okwenza imizila yokuzivocavoca lapho ukuwina kuncike ekusebenzeni ngabanye ukulingana okuhle."
Uma: Uqhutshwa emncintiswaneni
Zama: Ama-Triathlons, ahlukanisa i-tennis noma igalofu, ukuvuselela umzimba, ibhoksi noma ukulwa kwe-MMA , ukulinganisa i-Olympic
Indlela Obeka Ngayo Ngemizwelo Enganaki Kungayithinta I-Goal-Setting
Ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo okuqhubekayo kuyinkimbinkimbi encane yokucabanga, kodwa kudlala indima ekuthonyeni ukuziphatha kokubeka imigomo. "Ukuvelela imizwelo emibi kungacatshangwa ukuthi uzwela ukujeziswa," kusho uFriesen. "Ngamanye amazwi, awunkulu ekubhekeni izingozi. Izinhloso zakho nezinqumo zakho kungenzeka ukuthi zisekelwe ekuvimbeleni izinto ezimbi ezingenzeki."
Kusukela embonweni wokuzivocavoca, lokhu kungase kusho ukuthi ukhuthazwa ukwenza okungenani okuncane ukuze unciphise amathuba okuhlaselwa yinhliziyo noma ukuthuthukisa isifo sikashukela sohlobo lwe-II. "Lokhu kungaholela ekungeneni okungekho emthethweni noma ukubeka imigomo ephephile kakhulu. Ukuphumelela okukhulu akuvamile ukuthi kwenzeke ngalolu hlobo lokugxila ekuvimbeleni," kusho uFriesen.
Ukuwela ngaphesheya kwe-spectrum-okuphansi kakhulu kwemizwelo engemuhle-kungabangela nemigomo yakho yokuzivocavoca. "Uma uhlelekile kulezi zindlalelo futhi ukhuphuke ekukhunjweni, uzovame ukuzwela ukuvuza futhi ungafuni ukujeziswa. Kungenzeka ukuthi ungase uthathe izingozi futhi ungazithuthukisi izinto ezincane," kusho uFriesen. "Ukuhlangabezana nemigomo emikhulu kulula futhi cishe kukukhuthaza kakhulu, kodwa ungase ubheke phansi izingozi nomsebenzi onzima ohilelekile ekufezeni imigomo yakho."
Ngokufanayo, uma uhlehlisiwe emizimbeni emibi futhi uhlehlisiwe ekukhuliseni, cishe uzoshukumiswa ngokucabanga ngemiphumela emihle etholakala ngokuthatha isinyathelo. Isibonelo, ukuthi uzozizwa kanjani uma uthola impilo noma kufanelekile njengomphumela wokuziphatha kwakho okusha kokuzivocavoca.
Uma: Yenza ukwenza okungenani okuncane ukunciphisa ingozi yemiphumela emibi
Zama: Ukusebenza nomqeqeshi noma umqeqeshi ukubeka imigomo emikhulu
Uma: Tendisa ukusetha imigomo emikhulu ngaphandle kokucabangela inselele
Zama: Ukubeka imigomo emikhulu, kodwa uzinciphisa ngokubeka izinjongo ezincane ezifinyeleleka kakhulu
Indlela Ozibheka Ngayo Inhloso Yingathinta Isidingo Sakho Sokusizwa
Akumele kusimangaze ukuthi abantu abavame ukuzethemba kakhulu kungcono ukunamathela esimisweni somsebenzi wokuvuselela kunabo abangenasisusa. Labo abajwayele ukungaphumeleli kwi-spectrum yokugqugquzela kudingeka bacabange ngokucophelela ngezizathu zabo zokuqala isimiso sokuzivocavoca ukuze basize ukuqinisa ukuzibophezela kwabo.
Ukukhuluma ngokweqile, kubalulekile ukwethembeka nawe ngokwamazinga akho okugqugquzela lapho ukhetha uhlobo lokuzivocavoca. Isibonelo, abantu ababeka phansi ngaphansi kokugqugquzela mhlawumbe ngeke babe nempumelelo enkulu emva kwesimiso sokusebenza esisekelwe ekhaya, esisekhaya. Kukhona iziphazamiso eziningi kakhulu nezizathu ongazilandeli.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, labo abazithokozisa kakhulu bangakwazi ukuzuza uhlelo lokuqeqeshwa emsebenzini futhi balandela ngokwabo. Bakudinga nje ukuba baqaphele kancane ngokungahambi kahle-abantu abanentshisekelo kakhulu abazimisele ukufinyelela imigomo ngokuthi "bangathathi iziboshwa" okungenzeka bakwazi ukuthola izimpilo zabo.
Uma: Udinga ukukhuthazwa kwesisusa
Zama: Ukubhalisa umlingani wokuqeqeshwa noma umqeqeshi ukusiza ukuthi ubeke icala lakho
Uma: Uzikhumbuza kakhulu
Gwema: Ukuziqhenya ngokusebenza kwakho nemigomo yakho